Friday, March 21, 2008

Neighbor

She always had time and smiles. Not expensive gifts, perhaps, but they were just what I needed. Her smile transformed her whole sun-browned face, crinkling her kind eyes, and she seemed to radiate joy.

I was an awkward, lonely thirteen year old and she was an adult who actually listened. When I was bemoaning a world where no one understood me, she came close, just by opening her door and listening. I spent hours in the dining room with them under the guise of "studying", actually eating popcorn, drinking Sunkist, joking, talking, laughing. We'd take the dog for a walk, smiling at the way his stubby tail wagged and the way he got mud on our pants when he jumped on our legs. I laughed endlessly when we discovered that she couldn't say aluminum. She nodded in understanding when we explained the bullying of junior high. In my loneliest days, I counted her among my friends.

I got older, taller, busier, but she remained my friend. She came to football games, tennis matches, band concerts, and showchoir competitions, supporting not just her son, but all of us. She was small, but her hugs were enormous, enveloping. Her laugh danced through the room, tickling everyone until they giggled along.

She loved horses and dogs. She grew up in my hometown and told stories about her youth there. She cared for people and greeted them with a friendliness that made them feel immediately at ease. She lived the command to love her neighbor. And she taught me to do that, too.

I miss her.

3 comments:

Unknown said...

I am sorry if you lost a close friend. That is always a hard thing to go through.

Anonymous said...

So, she'll live on through you--all of you. I hope someday when I'm gone I'll have made half the impression she made on you. Its good to be loved and remembered.

--Emily

Anonymous said...

Lauren,
I understand your pain. She will be missed by many. Last week was a week of loss for me. In addition to Lynda, there were two men ages 39 & 40 that I knew who passed away. One ready to meet the Lord and the other I don't know. Too many are dying way too young.

So much loss. The church I have been attending will be closing and having a final service May 10th at 7pm. There are many losses associated with this for me. It has been a long stressful time since October, but this too shall pass.

The challenge in all the loss is to remember the good times, learn from any bad times and allow God to walk us through it. He promised - Lo, I am with you always. We must trust in that.

Wanda